Hey Yo!

Kitty has to smile when I think of my new special friend. Like many of the men I meet on Ashley Madison he contacted me. There were several technical difficulties and he requested my key over and over. Then he began to ask for some assistance navigating the site. I am still not sure if it is a good or a bad thing that I am so familiar with Ashley Madison that men ask me for technical assistance. Anyway, I told him that I was communicating with Tom Cat and we wanted to see where things went before I communicated with any other man. He respectfully agreed and we emailed several more times just discussing his profile and how he could improve it. I assured him that his profile and his photos were fine. It was just the commitment that I had made to Tom Cat that prevented me from moving forward with him. Then out of nowhere he emailed a naked picture of himself fully erect. Damn! Kitty LOVES a good picture of a hard cock! So after things with Tom Cat did not progress he and I began to talk about meeting for coffee. He was so EAGER! Kitty loves eager although I have learned by now that these eager beavers tend to lose their interest in Kitty after we have fucked. But still, it’s worth a try right?

He pleaded with me to call him. You all know Kitty is not one to talk on the phone but I found myself with some free private time so I figured “what the hell?” Once I finally reached him his voice told me right away that he was a “Yo Adrian” guy from Philly. Kitty likes that. In fact, Kitty finds it sexy especially when he tries to find the words to charm Kitty and ends ups saying things like “Yeah I’d fuck ya!” Don’t ask me why that turns me on. It just DOES!

So we have been talking on the phone “Hey yo” and I. I hadn’t heard from him over the weekend and texted on Sunday which led to a naughty texting session which made Kitty wet.  He asked if I would be his “dirty little slut”. My response? What do you think?

Kitty Sings the Blues

I’m not sure why it hurts so much when a former hook-up moves on so quickly. Oh I know it’s my ego. Kitty wants to be special or at least thought of as special. Over the weekend after I ended things with him I saw him on Ashley Madison constantly. I know what he was doing. He was hunting. He was flirting and he was shopping….for everybody except for me. This morning I received an email from him asking for my advice on his profile. He updated it and said he has been getting a much better response. Ouch! Was that supposed to sting or was he just being my friend. We had agreed to be friends so what did I expect? We aren’t right for each other. He promised me the world and I have no doubt that over time he would have provided me with many beautiful and thoughtful gifts not to mention attention. Kitty needed more. Kitty needed the connection that we just did not have. Over the course of a very short time our emails became argumentative. Sure, I could have retreated and things would have been fine but I refused. I wanted him to come clean. I could have looked the other way but I wanted to make my point. After our initial encounter I knew things would not last and even though I agreed to meet him again, it was for the sake of not hurting his feelings. So why now that things are done, we are friends and he has clearly moved on so effortlessly is Kitty feeling blue?

Friend Material

Kitty has a lot of friends in real life both male and female…platonic friends. XXX is always making a point of saying “You have A LOT of friends” whenever I tell him a story. I can’t help it. I have a collection of unique people whose company I enjoy. Most of them I can tell almost anything to. Most of them I love like family.

XXX has been referring to us as friends for a long time now but we never actually do anything “friend –like”. I mean we don’t go to the movies or socialize outside of work…OH…except for that brief period of time when we met at his place and FUCKED. That’s an entirely different kind of friendship all together. So I thought XXX and I had agreed to be platonic friends. He has mentioned on more than one occasion that we should go out to dinner or a drink. Interesting. I wonder what Angry Guy would say if I mentioned that I was going out drinking with XXX. Something tells me that Angry Guy would not approve. So I recommended lunch sometime instead.

Well today Kitty found myself with a few hours free after work before I had to pick up the kids from school so against my better judgment I texted XXX “What are the chances I can talk you into going out to lunch with me today? My treat!”

Now I thought that was a pretty light hearted invitation and fairly clear that it was lunch I was going for and not sex. Well to make a long story short XXX graciously declined my invitation somehow mistaking lunch for an invitation to bed. On the one hand I felt rejected but on the other hand I thought “You pompous JACKASS!”

I was pleased to be able to text XXX that it was JUST lunch and “nothing else”. To which his reply was “oh”. NICE!

I could feel his ego deflate from down the hall. After that of course he was too embarrassed to go to lunch and did not resurface for the rest of the day. I know he is having a tough time and I am trying to be a supportive friend. Being a friend to me also means doing social things. Big Cheese takes me out to lunch on a regular basis and there is no sexual tension on my end at all.

Poor XXX. No wonder he has no friends. Maybe we are just going to have to be friends at work and not “REAL friends”. Maybe XXX is just not friend material.

Kitty + Men = Rejection

I am beginning to make a connection between men and rejection. I was thinking about it today on my way to the gym this morning. Every man that I have been with has rejected me especially lately. The ironic thing is that most of the men have been rejected themselves by their wives if not by other potential women on Ashley Madison so it never ceases to amaze Kitty how cold and callus men can still be. Kitty up to this point has been particularly sensitive to these men and would never judge them on their physical appearance or anything like that. Kitty always tried to compliment them and make them feel wanted. I always thought the idea behind these encounters was to make the other person feel GOOD…not BAD.

You know what doesn’t reject you? A vibrator. YEP! They just shut up and WORK! And when they stop working you replace the batteries or throw it in the trash and buy a new one. Kitty used to prefer a man over a vibrator. I love the feel of a man’s hands. I love the sound of a man’s voice in my ear. I love to suck on a man’s cock.

Then Kitty realized that I can turn on a movie and hear George Clooney’s voice for example. I can close my eyes and pretend I feel his touch. I can make his cock any size I want to depending on my mood although COME ON! You just know he’s supersized.

The only thing that I can think of that I am missing by opting for the vibrator over an actual man is…OH the REJECTION! I think Kitty can live without that.

Jewish Guys

Do Jewish guys have a reputation for cheating? Big Cheese mentioned this months ago and I have been thinking about it ever since. I know A LOT of Jewish guys and in fact was married to one. I know for sure he didn’t cheat…on me anyway. His father maybe cheated but other than that any other Jewish guy I’ve ever met hasn’t been a cheater.

I began thinking about this only because I am not seeing ANY Jewish guys on Ashley Madison. Okay, I lied. Now that I think about it I can think of ONE.

So, what’s the deal? Do Jewish guys cheat?

He Makes Me Laugh

I know I have been on a hate rant over Angry Guy and that’s really not fair. He does have SOME redeeming qualities. I have to say that when he wants to be he is a terrible romantic. He can’t help it. It comes naturally to him. I can appreciate some romance every now and then and when he is romantic I always welcome that however romantic does not necessarily translate into sex.

I think Angry Guy’s most redeeming feature is the way he makes me laugh. When he is not being an incredible asshole he can pretty much make me laugh non stop. That’s what attracted me to him in the first place. Kitty LOVES to laugh.

The reason I thought of this is because this morning we were laughing over something at breakfast. We took the kids to school together and as we were heading back home we passed our neighbor’s house. We saw the husband doing something in the wife’s car. Angry Guy made a joke about the husband hotwiring a bomb to the ignition or something. We both laughed because we both know that the husband is quite capable of such a thing. Anyway it got me thinking…Angry Guy and I have a history now. We have been together for a good long time and even though we don’t always get along we share our house, our children and a whole lot of laughs.

When Angry Guy got out of the car to let me go to work he leaned over to kiss me on the cheek and said “You have a SPECIAL day.”

Kitty's AWARD

KITTY WON AN AWARD!!!! I know….RIGHT?!?!?!

My Blog friend Ryan nominated me for

a Liebster award.

 Let me tell you a little about it..... Or better yet, let me cut and paste
 what Ryan cut and paste from Gertie and then I don't have to think of what to say (see below,

"Liebster Blog Award. According to our dear friend Lainey over at Lainey's

Life Lessons <http://laineyslifelessons.blogspot.com/> it is really an

award bloggers give to one another to increase readership. To be eligible
 one must have less than 200 public followers, I definitely qualify. In the
 beginning I wanted to keep my readers down because of anonymity but to hell
 with it, I am Gertie!!, beware of my hammer! I am obligated after receiving
 this award to give it to 5 oops I mean 6 other bloggers who meet the
 parameters of blog I follow with intriguing posts & less than 200
 followers. (I chose 6 because Lainey only chose 2 and I am sure she won't
 mind me swiping her extra pick, I had hard choices to make) I must also
 shamelessly plug the person who gave the award to me. Have I mentioned how

awesome I think Lainey <http://laineyslifelessons.blogspot.com/> is?

So along with this award Kitty has to follow RULES. I know…RIGHT?!?!?!

 Rule #1 Link back to the person who gave you this award.

 Check out Ryan over at “The AshleyMadison Adventures of a Regular Guy Gone Bad-his blog is an eclectic collection of posts about his extracurricular sexcapades as well as political insights with a dash of humor from a man’s perspective. In all honesty Ryan is an intellectual and Kitty is not but Kitty adores Ryan and wants to give him the plug ;)

 Rule#2 Choose deserving bloggers and alert them to their award winning
 status. This I think is the most fun part of the blog award because I am positive
 that most of these bloggers don't know how inspirational they are to me!


And the winners in no particular order are........."

1. Prowling with Kat <http://shackledkat.blogspot.com/>: Now I never got a clear answer on whether or not I could duplicate and since Ryan and I have different readers I am duplicating Ryan’s nomination because Kat’s blog has had such a strong influence over my writing as well as my outlook on extra marital affairs in general. Kat’s blog includes stories about her personal Ashley Madison experiences as well as advice and information about anal sex for instance, how to react when a lovers’ wife calls you…you know…practical things.

2. Same Sassy Girl:<http://samesassygirl.blogspot.com/?zx=bd74c110a847cca8>

Sorry, but this is another duplication from Ryan’s nominations that bears repeating. As Ryan put it best when he said “There are so many unique blogs out there and unique ways of expressing
 one's message. Sassy Girl tells the story of her relationship with her
 Philip through their texts and e-mails. There is a quote from Star Trek
 where Spock says "having is not so pleasing a thing, after all, as
 wanting...." Well, Sassy does have some good posts about "having" as well.
 But my point is that the lead up, the seduction, the planning, the
 wanting, and the mundane little details of that daily connection are what
 keep me coming back to this blog! Well, I do like a girl with some sass as
 well! :)”

3. That’s What Sadie Said- This is Sadie’s second blog the first being of course “Sadie’s Sexy Stories ofSeduction” which outlined the ups and downs of her open marriage. That’s What Sadie Said is part two of Sadie’s ever exciting life encompassing everything from feelings about being a single mother to being harassed by judgmental readers (not me of course. I ADORE Sadie)

4. Hands In My Pants AndOther Lustful Desires-Okay if you click on the link you will know EXACTLY why Kitty likes this blog. It is filled with lots and lots of great dick pictures and Kitty LOVES dick pictures. Hands In My Pants is light and funny and always makes Kitty smile.

5 J.J. Loves Kat- I’m not sure if Kat will nominate this one or if it is a conflict of interest so I am nominating it. J.J. is the lover that all of us ladies secretly hope to meet when we answer that Ashley Madison “wink”. I would love to have one of my lovers be half as thoughtful as J.J. not to mention to write a blog about me. J.J.’s posts are heartfelt and romantic.


 So take a look at these blogs. But there are so many others out there.
 When you are looking at these blogs or mine, see what they are reading (on
 their blogroll). Chances are you'll find some good stuff out there!
Thanks again Ryan for bestowing this honor upon me, Love, Kitty xoxo