It’s funny actually. I was planning to write this
and then Chashunk wrote his comment on my “Broken Toys” post. I have been told
over and over that I try too hard. It’s my Type A personality I think. I always
want to do the best I can do. I always want to have the happiest kids, dogs,
home and lovers. I never thought of it as a flaw but I guess it really is!
Anyway, enough about that! Prior to reading Chashunk’s
comment I had deleted all of my online dating accounts. He’s right. The single online
dating scene is far different from Ashley Madison and not in a good way. It’s
just not for me.
In addition one of my friends recommended a book
called “Men Love Bitches”. At first I had a hard time parting with the ten
bucks to download it on my kindle. A little known fact about Kitty is that I
can be super cheap usually when it pertains to buying something for me. But I
broke down and made the purchase. As promised this book changed my perspective.
It may have changed my LIFE! At least for the time being.
In a nutshell the book is an empowering read which
describes how men enjoy “the hunt” and if as a woman you go out of your way to
make things easy for them, they lose interest in you and any potential for a
relationship is gone. On the surface Kitty knew all of this already but Kitty
HATES to play those games. Kitty HATES to play “hard to get” and Kitty HATES to
fuck with people’s emotions.
For whatever reason, the way this book was written
really made Kitty feel empowered. I can highly recommend the book.
Originally I had planned to write about the prospect
of never having sex again. As people around me couple up one by one and as the
holidays approach I am reminded that my prospects of ever having sex again are
slim.
There were moments when the thought of never feeling
a man’s hands on my body ever again made me sad. The thought of never feeling a
hard cock inside me brought a tear to my eye. But then once again I realized
that about 18 months ago I was living in a bad marriage with a man who was
comfortable lying next to my naked body night after night without so much as
brushing up against me.
Kitty is much MUCH happier and in all honesty I
really do believe that someday I’ll feel those hands…I’ll feel that cock inside
of me. Kitty has faith.
3 comments:
“Men Love Bitches”
I think I own this book... I bought it because I tended to be connecting with this type of woman... and I guess I was hoping that if I could learn to identify them before hand, I could save myself a great deal of grief.
You know?
I think we have to believe in ourselves... trust ourselves...
But then what do I know??
~shoes~
Aw, Kitty, never have sex again? You? Nah, my money says you're very wrong.
I question the idea set forth in the book. Yes people tend to discount and not appreciate what comes easy and is predictable. However the other extreme is a turn off too. When I had to eat a lot of bs and put up with games I always walked.... it just took a while but the time came when enough is enough. Somewhere in between too easy and too hard is where balance is found.
Now we as humans do not want to be alone but our motives for being with others can vary widely. Some want casual dates. Some want to date but enjoy being free especially after long relationships. Some are hurt so badly that they can never get too close. But some of us want to find a compatible, fun, loving, intelligent, trustworthy partner for the long haul. I wish that there was a easy way to determine what peoples motives are for being in a relationship with us. It seems like we just have to get back on the horse and ride again and again after we get thrown off.
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