So I finally heard from J-Date guy. I have to think of a name for him. He’s one of these guys that has a lot of side businesses and is a wheeler and dealer. Not typically my type but let’s face it, I’m not looking for a husband so if I get a few fun evenings out of it then I am in!
When I think about it Ashley Madison really HAS helped me in this new arena. There seem to be so many people on these dating websites that are desperate to “find the one”. I don’t think I will EVER want just one. And so, my secret life will continue. In my opinion if you are “dating” and if Kitty chooses to have another “friend” that’s not cheating. Others may disagree. Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to pretend that I am not a prowler or a “cheater”. Yes, I cheated on my husband and would have continued to do so had I not found the opportunity to end our marriage.
So J-Date Guy called me yesterday. He is into talking on the phone as opposed to texting or email. This sucks for Kitty because I have a ton of shit going on around here and I hardly have time to chat on the phone for hours at a time. But since this guy is so cute in his pictures and has such a sexy voice I decided to indulge him.
He is older than me but not TOO old. He’s Hammer’s age I think only Hammer comes across as much younger. Jewish guys act old even when they are not. J-Date Guy is a talker. He talks and talks and talks, which drives me crazy. The interesting thing is at one point in the conversation he used the word “fuck”. I repeated what he said and also used the word “fuck”. He immediately notified me that he is turned on by a woman who uses profanity. DING DING DING DING!!! Here I am!!!
The conversation at this point began to turn toward sex. Kitty has no problem with that. Now Kitty has two skeletons in my closet in this new dating arena. 1. This is my second marriage that is breaking up. That’s a red flag for any guy looking for a long term relationship and/or marriage. I have tried to work it into the conversations relatively early on to get it out there. Although XXX says that I shouldn't. 2. I cheated on my husband…A LOT. Now that’s a biggie and one I choose to keep to myself. Yes, Naughty Kitty has decided to maintain my anonymity.
So J-Date Guy began asking me when the last time I had a great “make-out” session with my husband. I told him “years”. Technically this is true. Then he said “So I would be your FIRST?” There was a part of me that WANTED to come clean. In the back of my head there was a video running of all the men I have been with over the past several months. There was a part of me that was thinking about and yearning for Hammer.
I held my breath and closed my eyes and half heartedly said “Yes”. He seemed pleased. He seemed honored and admittedly turned on. I rationalized it in my head that he actually MIGHT be the first after Angry Guy and I officially split.
The interesting thing about this part of the conversation is that he was fascinated with my openness about sex. He was excited about my love for the act. He told me that Jewish women have a reputation for not wanting to “please their man”. I assured him that I do not feel that way and I don’t.
So this thing with J-Date Guy may be interesting. But in the meantime I have come to the conclusion that Naughty Kitty and my secret life are here to stay.