More and more of our acquaintances are finding out about Angry Guy and me splitting up. Believe it or not HE is the one telling them. I can only imagine what his warped side of the story is. Actually I already know what it is. So I posted my own semi private announcement on my vanilla blog not too long ago. It’s funny because one of my male friends commented “I am sad but not surprised.” I hear that a lot. Angry Guy doesn’t believe it. I must have given an Academy award winning performance because Angry Guy still claims he is completely shocked. It’s funny to me how when we fight he brings up shit to hold over my head from YEARS ago but suddenly he doesn’t remember that I was so distraught this past fall that I sought out therapy. He has also conveniently forgotten that we have the same nasty, dirty, ugly argument every 6 months to a year and I am just tired of it.
The important thing and what I want to write about is “Support”. How men and women who end long term relationships are treated by their friends, their families and the general public. Having gone through this before I am not surprised when my siblings roll down their shades, so to speak, and lock their doors. I’m not sure…do they think I am going to ask them for MONEY?!?!? I never have before so why the hell would I start now?
My married female friends start out being supportive then slowly distance themselves from me. Is it because I have touched upon something that they all wish they have to courage to do? Some of them for sure have rocky relationships. Hey, I’ll admit, this whole thing is scary. Everybody is in my ear about being able to afford the whole thing financially.
So are they saying I should stay in a bad marriage for the money??? Call me crazy. Call me selfish but there is no way in hell that I am going to do this for another what? 5…10…20 years?!?!?!
In the meantime things here are hectic. Angry Guy has found a place to stay not too far away. The kids are fine…or will be once he goes. In the meantime we are strong. We are healthy and we are free.