Kitty has taken the past few months to reflect upon my Ashley Madison activity from the first round. Looking back I really learned a lot about men and about myself. I learned among other things that I need a new set of rules and I need to stick to them this time…NO EXCEPTIONS. So Kitty has a devised a Top Ten list of rules for round two of Ashley Madison.
10. Condoms, Condoms, Condoms – no ifs, ands or buts about it. Everybody is wrapping it up from this point forward or their cocks are not getting near Kitty’s kitty.9. Slow and steady wins the race – No more hook-ups in hotel rooms without meeting first. Kitty got real lucky but things have changed and no matter how horny Kitty is things will have to follow an order.
8. No over sharing-My whole purpose behind getting involved with Ashley Madison was to get a bit of a tougher skin. After going over some of my better encounters I realized that they were the encounters where I was able to keep my distance. I didn’t share too much information with them and they didn’t share too much with me.
7. Don’t take it personally if they don’t want to meet again or even if they don’t want to meet after seeing your photo. This actually just happened to me today. Someone asked for my photo and at the same time I directed him to my blog. I received an email back saying he was too nervous and his wife was “gorgeous” and he wasn’t sure why he was even doing this. Um…OKAY. Actually it didn’t bother me too much especially since I was less than impressed by his photo. Also, I am not looking for some nervous guy who is on the fence about the whole thing. I am looking for someone who is going to follow through even if it is just for the one meeting.
6. Condoms, condoms, condoms no matter how much whining he does about not being able to feel sensation.
5. TMI Kitty is not going into detail about my marriage or my previous relationships. Kitty thinks that is either a turn off for these men or ammunition to use against me later on.
4. Keep them guessing. In the past Kitty removed my AM profile and pulled myself out of the game. I didn’t want to lead anybody on but I find that when a guy realized I had no other options they took what they wanted from Kitty then walked away. Even if I don’t follow up on anybody I think the competition keeps the boys on their toes.
3. Don’t ask don’t tell. Kitty met a guy on AM and against everything in this post, I immediately began to like him. BAD KITTY!! I made the mistake of asking how many other women he was corresponding with. He answered honestly and Kitty felt that sick feeling in my stomach. You know the one. This was a reminder of exactly why Kitty pulls herself out of the game. Well, I picked myself up and dusted myself off and decided on the don’t ask don’t tell method. Even though I’d love to know about my competition, I have to remind myself that I am not in this to be hurt or deceived. I am in it for the sheer pleasure of the sex and as long as the guy is not bringing any other women on our date, and as long as he wears a condom, I need not concern myself with them.
2. Condoms, condoms, condoms no matter how handsome he is.
1. No matter what they say no matter what they promise Kitty will approach each and every one of these encounters as though it is the last. No communication will be initiated by Kitty afterwards no matter what.
Kitty is hoping that with this new set of rules to live by I will be able to keep a clear head and enjoy my Ashley Madison like I used to when I first signed up. Oh and if any of you have anything to add please fee free!
7 comments:
Kitty - Sounds like a good set of rules. My two cents: Do you have a friend you absolutely trust? Any time I met with someone new (and even after that first meeting), I always told a very good friend of mine where and when I was going to be meeting someone from AM. I also let the person I was meeting know that someone knew of my whereabouts.
Thanks Luna! Yes, I used to text Kittycat but now XXX or Bad Boy are my guardian angels.
I think that the "keep-your-distance" thing is a double-edged sword, but of course it depends on what you want. On the one hand, it insulates you from being hurt by someone, intentionally or not...on the other hand, you maintain a wall that prevents achieving REAL intimacy with someone, and it's that intimacy that leads to mind-blowing sex. In my opinion.
I really think that AM in general teaches a person to be jaded and as you say, tougher...which is also safer. But there's something to be said for finding a person whom you feel you CAN trust, and then just...letting go. When it does work out, it's truly amazing. But that's the paradox of this thing...how do you know who is trustworthy?
G8r
G8r, you are so right and I torture myself all the time about that. It is not in my nature to build walls. I am a very sensitive, loving, caring woman. Can i tell you a little secret? I have a new special friend and most of those rules have already gone out the window. Kitty is obviously not good with boundaries but then again, that's why I am Naughty Kitty ;)
Wow! These are great. I sent them to a friend who is also starting AM round 2 also. Hope it works for you, whether you follow them or break them!
Kitty, I've been reading your blog for awhile and as a woman in a similar situation, I just feel for you. I am at the end of my cheating ways now and I have just gotten tired of being used and thrown away. AM is about sex, you read Riff Dog's blog right? It's all about the SEX. If that's what you want, than great. If you want more you will get burned. That's just how it is in the infidelity world.You deserve better.
Thank you Anonymous. You are absolutely right! Good luck to your friend Sassy ;)
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