Thursday, May 24, 2012


So, I guess like most of you I have a handful of cyber friends that I have email conversations with throughout the day. I can pretty much guarantee an email from Hammer, Parker, Ben and Tori at least once a day. I love it and have grown quite fond of all of them.

Then of course there are “Floaters”. These are my cyber friends, sometimes former lovers who contact me on and off. I enjoy hearing from them as well. The thing that gets me is when they want to hook up. Now being a floater in my life is all well and good in the cyber world but if Kitty is going to take a risk and meet you in person I need some sort of assurance that the floaters are not going to flake out…and they usually do which is why they are floaters in the first place.

Let’s take G for instance. We had an amazing encounter. We both agreed that it would be once and only once. Afterwards we did try to meet again but the distance and his hectic travel schedule got in the way. No problem. So eight months later G wants to meet again only he requests we meet in the middle. This is a HUGE hassle for me. In order to do it I would have to take time off from work etc. But Kitty is accommodating if nothing else so I tentatively agree. The tentative day comes and goes and I hear nothing from G. No problem since I didn’t take off from work and I didn’t drive half way through the state to meet him.

Three weeks later I hear from him again. He wants to know why I didn’t follow up. What the FUCK G?!?!?! Kitty doesn’t have time for that shit! Doesn’t he KNOW that I am a published AUTHOR now?!?!?!

So to make a long story short G unfortunately has earned a place among the floaters which mean his promises and his requests are taken with a grain of salt. After all why would I do back flips for a floater friend when I have so many awesome friends especially Hammer for God’s SAKE?!?!

Now don’t get me wrong. Floater friends are not BAD but they do have a disadvantage to daily friends. Don’t you agree?


Anonymous said...

interesting analogy! "Floaters" that makes sense. love the write and keep it up.


Anonymous said...

I totally agree. I have floater friends in real life too, not ones I fuck but the same thing applies.

The floater friends I kind of hang out with when it's convenient, I don't make much of an effort cause they haven't in the past.

WestsideTori said...

To cut the floaters some slack, sometimes life's demands make you float.

The beauty of the cyber-world is you can make friends anywhere if the people are real. I'm here for you, Kitty. XO

Ben said...

Hey Kitty -- I am mostly dug out from my trip, and hope to be more of a real e-friend in your life.

We all have lots of pressures and demands in our lives. Give them a little slack, though don;t let them abuse you. In the end, it all depends on what you want in the relationship. Sometimes, a float-in piece of fun is good for the body and the soul.

Naughty Kitty said...

Oh ben you are not a floated. You just went on vacation. I am talking about men who drop out of sight suddenly for months at a time.