One mistake that Kitty makes over and over again is that I always start off as “Fun Kitty”. Men become enamored with me because I am easy to talk to. On some levels I think like a man and I talk like a man. If I’ve heard it once I have heard it a million times that “You are SO cool, Kitty”. It’s easy for me to be this way before I start fucking a man. I am sincerely interested in what their issues are with their wives. I want to please them. I want to know what their marriage is lacking so that I can provide that for them. I am happy to do all this. They open up to me. This must be a gift I have or something because my entire life I have always had many male friends. I love men I really do.
The problem comes AFTER I start fucking these guys. It’s not their fault. They are just opening up and being honest just as they have always been. The problem is that Kitty changes. Oh, I still want to be thought of as “Fun Kitty” but I want these guys to realize that now that they have reached the “promised land” with Kitty, maybe there should be a little But in all honesty once Kitty fucks these guys I no longer want to hear them whine about their wives. I don’t give a shit why women on Ashley Madison aren’t returning their winks. And I sure as hell don’t want to hear that they have nothing left for Kitty because they fucked someone else the day before.
When does Kitty get MY turn? Haven’t I put myself behind enough wives, children, and careers? When is a guy going to look at me and say “Wow, you REALLY ARE just the perfect little friend!” When is he going to appreciate the risks I take to spend time with HIM? WHEN?!?!?!
I am beginning to see why the women on Ashley Madison seem so harsh on their profiles. I am beginning to see why they flat out say they want young guys or whatever it is they want. At least they are putting it right out there. I can’t tell you how many men claim they want a long term affair with Kitty then suddenly not so much.So from now on I am no longer “Fun Kitty”. I am “All About ME Kitty”.
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Go for it Kitty!
It's a weakness that they have to understand about themselves before they decide to fuck someone, that however sincere they think they are, perspective can change right after they cum.
Now, there's the real test, to see how things are after that point.
And sometimes there's a pleasant surprise, and other times the guy realizes that his dick had a lot more say in the matter then he thought.
So, with that in mind, being all about me Kitty is the smart thing to do, until after you find out what guy that just had sex with kitty is like after he cums!
There is no occasion where bad manners are acceptable. Absolutely kick 'em to the curb if they don't come up to scratch.
I know I've had to change my "paradigm" a great deal after venturing into the AM and affair life.
I'm much like you Kitty in that I give...a lot. For us, certainly for me, it's been a challenge to not be overly frustrated at times with the lack of reciprocity, which I believe is important for ANY relationship to work...at least longer term. I recently had to tell my AP that I couldn't continue to be the one to suggest, plan and initiate everything, including such simple acts as a "good morning" text. In my case, feeling as though I was the only one "giving" in my marriage was what got me seeking an affair and I don't need two of those relationships! Fortunately, she took it well.
~Armada
Kitty I am so inspired by this post. We have a lot of similarities when it comes to men, how we relate to them and how we get perceived by them so I know and feel your pain sister. I am so NOT the actual cheerleader type but for you I'd wear the uniform and wave the pom-poms as long as it means you keep blogging. "Go-Kitty! Kick some ass Kitty! Get laid Kitty and make it all about you!" I'm going to try a similar attitude shift because I'm 0 for 3 from the last time I was prowling on AM.
You guys are great! First let me say thanks for your comments. I LOVE them.
Marcus, XXX was just saying the very same thing today. I agree.
Petunia, I agree and am not making excuses but part of what we are known for in this neck of the woods is attitude. My attitude for example may seem great on a blog but in person, in another part of the world i would be considered obnoxious and rude as well.
Armada, I am beginning to think you are the male version of me. I wish you lived near by so we could have coffee...or something.
Kate, you are bad for my ego but I love you too. Thanks so much for reading and commenting. I will certainly try to keep my blog up as long as I have good things to write.
about time kitty! (that shady lawyer you know....)
HA! Which one? I know so many ;)
Yo Kitty! Good commentary. Here is one guy’s perspective. Marriage counselors have a conventional wisdom. When a husband has an affair, there is an 80% chance they can fix it up. When a wife has an affair, there is a 20% chance they can fix it up. Why? Husbands want to be both physically and emotionally into the marriage. When the physical/sexual part withers, they find sex elsewhere, and they bitch about their wives who nag, don’t understand, and everything else you hear. You are a good listener and a good sex partner, so they inflict their troubles on you. When a wife has an affair, she is already so far down the road of giving up on the sex and giving up on the emotional connection that there is little hope for the marriage.
What does this mean for you? You need to drop these guys who want a female fuck buddy who will also listen to their complaints about their wives. You want someone who is far enough down the path that he knows what he wants – a friend with benefits outside of his marriage. Or someone with an open marriage. Someone who knows that you are not interested in his wife, and he is not interested in your husband, at least as a primary topic of conversation.
This is another way of expressing your valid "me me me" need.
So Kate, look me up on AM. Where do you live?
Ben
Okay, Ben yes I agree although I am not opposed to listening to one's problems. I just don't want it to be the cornerstone of OUR relationship.
Um...ben??? Are you trying to score with Kate?!?!?!?!
Kitty - That's exactly it: you need a man who has passed the point of vacillating, and has decided that he needs to move on in finding an outside sexual partner. He can focus on you, and you can focus on him ... it is "me me me" for both of you.
Score with Kate? Well who knows, if I hear from her.
See, Ben this is exactly what I am talking about. Don't try to pick up another lady on MY BLOG!!!! Kitty's blog is all about Kitty. The only one you flirt with on Kitty's blog is Kitty. If you want to flirt with Kate, go to HER blog!!!
Sorry Kate...these men never learn do they???
Kitty - Lesson learned. LOL. You are THE BOSS. ;-) Flirting is just flirting.
There was the time when I was dating the woman now my wife. She introduced me to her cousin, who was a bit on the randy side. I asked for cousin's number, meaning to give it to my housemate -- really -- but girlfriend did not take it that was. UGLY.
I thought it might be you. Are you being a good boy? Wifey out of town? She leaves you alone WAY yoo much.
Heeeyyyy.... it's been a tough few months for moi. What if Kate asks Kitty for permission to flirt with Ben outside of the beloved Kitty's blog site??? Pleeease??? :)It's a good step for me to learn to make things more about me, me, me like you inspired and you could be a helpful catalyst to achieve this for someone who who's been in your shoes too many times. Just a thought....
Kitty -- So if I want to cyberconnect with Kate, do I need your permission? Will you give it? PLEESE?
I deserve a finders fee and Ben, you know Kitty is not a good sharer.
Kate, he's yours. Kitty does not like fickle men.
she's gone until the end of may. ahhhhh....will be in your neck of the woods in two weeks. are you still on yahoo?
- me
I do check my yahoo email but don't have time to chat much. We should meet for coffee or lunch if you are down here but Howdy...you are WAY too young for Kitty.
LOL... I hit you up for a coffee! Drop you a line later next week.
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