Kitty's Forum

Kitty is SO excited today! I woke up to check my email and found an email from Armada. He said he posted a question to the forum and there has been no response. Can I please take this opportunity to direct your attention to the left? I know it is difficult to read but if you click on the word “FORUM”, you will see that you can post and answer questions. You all KNOW Kitty loves that stuff so please by all means PARTICIPATE.

Now, back to Armada’s question. Please let’s help him. I’ve been where he is and I know that time is of the essence.

Hello Kitty,

I had submitted this question below via the "ask naughty kitty" link on the blog but not sure if it made it to you so trying to email it.

I think you were right in one of your recent posts to my comment. I am the male version of you! ;)

I'm hoping to get your advice... Met a woman in the past several weeks via AM. We've been emailing regularly which brings me to my question for you...your woman’s perspective! She seems like the "type" that if I don’t initiate contact, like "good morning," she won’t do it. I can’t explain why...but this bothers me to no end. I'm all for initiating and even keeping up the chase initially...but is it unrealistic of me to want the other partner or potential partner to put in/out some effort? I think part of the reason it bugs me so much, and she isn’t the first I've met who has been like this, is that I put in 90% of the effort with my marriage. In fact, that’s the whole reason I seek out affairs! The bottom line for me is, I don’t feel like I need TWO (or more...haha) relationships where I feel as though I am the one putting forth all the effort. Am I just being unrealistic and is it much ado about nothing? Should I expect this?

I look forward to hearing from you!

So, let me start by saying first that I am learning more and more through AM. You hear me complain all the time about how shitty men are and how they play games. OMG Armada! You are SO right WOMEN PLAY GAMES TOO!!!

Personally I love to be chased initially but yes, I agree at some point the other party whether it be the man or woman should be able to initiate contact unless you have an agreement otherwise due to the spouse reading texts for example.

Initially Kitty does wait for the other party to make contact. I never request keys on AM unless mine has been requested first and I never initiate contact first on AM. It’s just my thing. Having said that, once we have been emailing back and forth I will email as I see fit. If something happens or I think of that person I WILL email them or text them.

I hate to be a downer but Armada I just don’t think these extracurricular relationships should be such a struggle. We already have to struggle in our marriages. I refuse to struggle over the affection of a stranger. Go with your gut on this one. If she wants you, she should PARTICIPATE.

What does everyone else think?