Friday, April 20, 2012

A Matter of Time

I’ve read Kat’s blog long enough to realize the dangers of a lover’s wife calling so I can’t say that I was surprised by the events of last night and I can’t say that I am surprised that of all of my lovers T-Bone’s was the wife who contacted me.

T-Bone and his wife have what seems to be knock down drag out fights. From his descriptions of her she sounds as mean as a snake. The ironic thing is that she is a school teacher and holds the minds of young children in her hands.

So last night just after I wrote my “Click of a Button” blog which really had nothing to do with T-Bone, he and I began to text. He had cancelled yet again on a meeting we had but this time I was ready for it so I just let it go. Somehow he made a comment about Angry Guy and how controlling he is. I responded with a text that said “Yours is not a marriage that I envy.” To which his reply was “What does that mean?” Now I’ve been trapped in these text wars before and I was heading up to bed so I didn’t want to get into it but basically I said that I have to do what I have to do to make my marriage work. I understand he has to do the same but just as I respect his marriage, he should respect mine.
I wasn’t surprised when I didn’t hear back right away so I went up to bed. The next morning I checked my phone. There were several missed texts from him as well as a missed call and voicemail. See, this is exactly why 1.Kitty doesn’t like to give out my cell phone and 2. Why I take it to bed with me at night now.

So the texts were actually from Mrs. T-Bone…I think. They said basically “this is his wife. Don’t communicate with him anymore. He said you were fat.” Lovely. So Mrs. T-Bone is one of those women who makes herself feel better by hurting other people. Kitty is not a bit surprised by this and if I were a different person I would have texted back “He said fucking you is like fucking the Grand Canyon.” But Kitty is just not that type of Kitty.

Now if I were counseling my 10 year old daughter which by the way that’s exactly the mentality of Mrs. T-Bone (a 10 year old MEAN GIRL), I would say “I will lose the weight but you will always be a dirty cunt whose vagina feels like the Grand Canyon.”

The voice mail was T-Bone just saying not to contact him anymore. Okay, no problem. For a minute I thought maybe he didn’t mean it and left the message to appease her. His voice was like the voices that the hostages used when they were sending messages to the U.S. from Iran back in the 80’s. But in all honesty I just don’t want to be around that toxicity.

I remembered all the phone conversations T-Bone and I had. I remembered all the whining he did about his aches and pains and what a mean cunt his wife is. I don’t remember him EVER asking about my day. He NEVER asked how I was feeling or what I wanted. That was never a problem for me because I knew that this day would come. I knew that if I got attached to T-Bone when we had to part ways it would hurt. The fact that he is completely self absorbed makes it very easy for Kitty to say “goodbye”. See, Kitty is learning. Kitty did not shed even one tear for this jerk who never gave a damn about me or my feelings. Really, he and Mrs. T Bone deserve each other. I hope they live a long and happily miserable life together.

And so…with the click of the button T-Bone is gone from my cell phone. He is gone from my Facebook. He is gone from my Ashley Madison. T-Bone is gone from my life.

23 comments:

Ben said...

Kitty -- Be strong, respect yourself, and move on. You are witty, interesting, attractive, and sexy. The weight will fall, but you have to keep the inner strength.

And for those women here who complain about unresponsive men -- Kitty, you have heard this from me -- believe me that men are frustrated by the behavior of women on AM. Why would women send me a collect message in response to a wink and then not even have the politeness to reply "not interested"? Hell, I met Kitty via her comments on a blog in response to her complaints about on men and AM.

Kitty, I know you do not like me chatting up other women on your blog, but I have made better contacts that way than on AM. Hmmm ... I think there could be a business model here ...

Naughty Kitty said...

Ben, I am strong, happy and healthy. Things have never been better. I learn with every experience. With this experience I have learned how lucky I am to have the life that I have which without T-Bone is drama free. Kitty does not like drama.

I have no idea about the women on AM and I am glad that you and I met through my blog. As far as the other women you meet on my blog...well...

More importantly we should discuss this business model. XXX and I have been trying to come up with something for months. If you are serious we should put our two heads together and maybe devise a "business trip" so we can finally meet in person. My kitty is yearning for a man like you who knows how to treat a kitty like me ;)

Naughty Kitty said...

P.S. Ben, you KNOW T-Bone was very high maintenance. For someone who wasn't handsome, tall, or charming he sure had an awful lot of demands for my appearance. And let's face it. How long can I stand to listen to a guy who is supposed to be a tough guy whine like a pussy about his wife and his allergies.

Kitty doesn't do whining very well.

Ben said...

When I have time, I'll write up my business idea. I just want a minority share of the business and royalties.

Glad to know you are doing well. I may be over-reacting to your venting on yur blog, which is, after all, one of its purposes, isn't it?

Anonymous said...

GM Kitty, WOW I have missed alot since being on Vacation. I must say Ben is Right, "You are witty, interesting, attractive, and sexy." Just getting to know you and your blog. Missed you. :)

Me

Luna Moon said...

Kitty, I have been following your blog for months and I am always rooting for you...hoping you'll find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated!

Hang in there!

Hugs!
Luna

Same sassy girl said...

Wow! Go you! One way streets are no good... great that you're moving on. Looking forward to who comes next... hee hee hee.

Naughty Kitty said...

Yes, Ben I am just venting. After all the men I have been with this one didn't phase me at all. Keep in mind that I have a steady dose of XXX to boost my ego and I wrote this blog a few days ago. Also, you might be interested to know that T-Bone and his wife are younger than me...not much but like you are always saying, I need an older man who is not looking to get even with his wife but to just enjoy another woman.

Welcome home ME!

Thanks Luna! I'm going to stop looking for now I think.

Sassy, you are a naughty, naughty girl!

LiteBlu64 said...

You go Kitty...I agree with Ben, I have been on AM for about 2 months now, and so far it's not living up to the hype. Maybe my expectations are unrealistic? I especially love the women that dont take the time to write anything in their profile, and then either dont reply to your message or say something like "I'm looking for something else"..Well, how about letting us know what the hell you are looking for?? I'm also interested in hearing more about the business model....

Naughty Kitty said...

Oh Blue, you would LOVE Kitty on AM. I either send my key or explain politely why I am not sending my key. Kitty has very good AM manners which is pretty much how I ended up with T-Bone in the first place. He was floundering around AM and kept asking me technical questions until I finally broke down and agreed to talk to him. Email Kitty your AM name and I will look at your profile if you want and tell you what I think...if you want an objective opinion. Kitty's email is naughtykitty314@yahoo.com

WestsideTori said...

Kitty, how these men treat you makes me sick. Don't let it beat down your self-esteem, though, and DON'T fall into XXX's arms. You need time to take stock and regroup.

Ben, I think we need an AM angle on JDate. Jewish men have manners and women don't have to worry about them being serial killers once they're alone in a hotel room. As for Jewish women, contrary to stereotype, many of us give excellent blowjobs, don't whine, and don't expect you to take us shopping! ;)

Naughty Kitty said...

AMEN Tori!!!

Ben said...

WestsideTori -- As a Jewish man, I adore the flattery. Actually, Kitty and I started our friendship over the issue of Jewish men as lovers. And, yes, IO have known quite a number of Jewish women who liked to give and to get oral. I love giving oral, myself.

Kitty, can Westsidetori and I flirt? PLEASSE!! Tori, you know where to find me ;-)

In any case, I'll sketch out the AM angle on Jdate, but it an AM where you can be kicked off the island if you do not play fair.

Anonymous said...

wait a second, there are other tribemembers here???

Ben said...

Shabbat shalom to all of you. And we all know what the Torah says about sex.

WestsideTori said...

Yeah, it says if the wife isn't getting any from her husband, she can divorce him.

Ben & Anon, you guys hit on it! If someone gets kicked off the island, we can really say, "The Tribe Has Spoken".

Ben, remember, no more sexy flirting after sundown. You wouldn't want to be a sinner, would you? ;)

WestsideTori said...

PS. Kitty gets to be an honorary tribe member. Besides, if I remember her posts correctly, she was married to one, so she's Jewish by injection, so to speak.

And Kitty, I won't flirt with any of your men if you don't approve, sister. I know how fickle they are.

Naughty Kitty said...

Ahhh Tori you ARE observant. And yes, I am a true member of the tribe. Levy, I believe.

Ben said...

Tori -- I am in the central time zone, so I can still flirt for a while.

Kitty - Can I PLEEZE flirt with WestsideTori?

Naughty Kitty said...

So I write blog after blog about what dirtbags are around here and how disrespectful they are and you are flirting with other women on my blog?? You don't see a conflict??

SexyBrownEyes said...

Wow Kitty! You go girl! Don't lose hope Kitty, he's out there and I hope he finds you!!

Anonymous said...

What a,perfect way to end,an affair, send a text saying this is from the spouse

Naughty Kitty said...

I believe it was his wife. He has no reason to lie about that.